It’s time to start all over. The first thing Thor does when he realizes he is in possession of this symbol of masculinity is to rid himself of all these jokers who stood in attendance to his humiliation. And we should too. By eradicating every single one of those thoughts and negative emotions which we were taught are important. They were used to protect the egos of our fathers and that is how we are using them too; to protect our ego. These are the thoughts which have led to our ruination to begin with. If we start over in a new faith and way of life, still operating with the same mindset we did before our fall so to speak, the only thing we are doing is ensuring a repeat of the past. One of the reasons these times in our lives are so dramatic is that this is what it takes to reduce our dependence upon powerful emotional states. The emotion-driven arguments we toss about in our minds distort our perception of the reality we are operating in. We are operating under the conditioning of how we were raised. This is why so many people talk about waking up. Just as the dreamer doesn’t know he is in a dream, a lot of men have no control over their own thinking. So much of it is automatic and driven by emotion. It becomes as automatic as breathing or digestion. We fail to realize that we have absolute control over our thinking. We find ourselves surrounded by thoughts, that, if we act on them, pull us further and further down. To remove ourselves from the lists of the wounded in the war on masculinity, we start by taking control of our own thoughts and ridding ourselves these negative influences.
If you consider that Loki arrives at the Ragnarok on a ship made of the fingernails of dead men, it is not a stretch to consider that all of these people typing fervently into their keyboards, with their fingernails reminding us of the deeds and words of dead men in one passionate ego driven post after another; may well be the type of spiritually unconscious beings escorting chaos himself into this mad, mad world. We have been a part of it. Even though we have been as mad as we can be at the failing of the light; all we can think is that if we can make our point properly, people will see how right we are and we will be victorious. What we should really be starting with is a removal of these thoughts which drag us kicking and screaming into these situations to begin with. That anger is not what makes us a man.
You want to know why it is so important to take control of your own incessant stream of thoughts and step away from the emotion-driven arguments? Because you cannot hide that. People will “feel” or “sense” of pick up on your negative energy. People will sub-consciously understand that this is an angry man. You could create and recite a speech as great as any orator ever has and it would not receive the credit it is due. First impressions and all that. Men who walk around believing that the great reserve of anger they have on hand, just within arms reach, ready to handle any infraction against their ego, are not people who are typically welcomed into anything. Now if they are capable of stringing a few well-worded thoughts into a powerful concept, it may take a while to figure out there is a lack of depth to this confidence they are attempting to emanate. You know, that posture one assumes when they are in an unfamiliar place in the hopes no one will mess with them. They are without the discipline necessary to handle violence. It is a fear based attempt to stand tall, so to speak. It is always uncovered.
Make no mistake, sometimes, in fact, most of the time, the emergence of an awareness of what our situation truly is, rises to the surface in an embryo of anger. It will manifest as violence. As soon as it does, those people are whisked off to jail. The instant men begin to act out against the status quo of the “nice guy” narrative it is ridiculed and denigrated. Soon after, the state begins to bleed them of any money they might have. Forcing them into a position in life where they must be a cog in someone else’s machine. Don’t do it and you go right back to jail.
I’ve known and been a part of acts of violence which were so outlandish for one reason only. They were based on an emotional response to a perceived slight to mine and others egos. Perhaps two or three times I have used violence to defend what this very man like ability is for. To protect the integrity of and ensure the safety of my family. My people and tribe. But even then, in doing what needed to be done, there was such a flood of energy that it was almost an unconscious act of bravado.
The idea of men proudly proclaiming a berserker idea, or that they actually “saw red” is a powerful indicator that the person in question is also unconscious in many other areas of their life. It is an extreme magnification of the manner in which they handle the very powerful tool of thinking in the rest of their life. They expect the acts of aggression necessary to be as automatic and pain free as the rest of their thinking activities.
We see this very powerfully demonstrated by Thor. Everyone is in agreement that Odin is on a journey. We expect to see him looking for something better. What we are not looking for is a deity actually growing into his position. From the time Odin taunts Thor about the women in his life at the river crossing, his furious response at so many jotuns here and there, his reaction when he lost his hammer, his unstoppable efforts to beat a path to Geirrödr door to his outstanding act of nobility as the father Thrudr. We see a warrior god develop into a powerful and confident ruler in his own right. The warder of men has set an example of masculinity we were not even expecting.
The acts of violence Thor has performed are usually parts of a larger story. The notation to the rest of us that violence is now necessary or that it needs to be put on hold. Until we come to the one stand-alone story about Thor. The Alvismol, where he really shines as an example of nobility, confidence and masculinity. He is aware of his role, his capabilities and understands that strength is an inherent component of confidence. No need to lash out in violence against a being who is not a threat and will eliminate himself in short order.
If we lash out in anger, that great reserve of energy, well then, we have to explain ourselves to society, don’t we. But we’ve got an excuse everyone can understand. “I was just so mad.” What happens when we apply a very aware course of action against a unique threat. That’s scary. That is something which is far outside the boundaries of society. There is the implied threat of “since I don’t know how to use mine, does he know how to use his?” this worries your average man.
I’m using this extreme example because it is what everyone can understand. And really all I want to point out is that most people cannot tell someone “no”. Anytime a man begins to discuss masculinity, there are ten more men who automatically jump up and attempt to one-up what the last guy says. There isn’t a clear course to navigate. We can be violent men, successful men, or loving fathers and husbands without sacrificing any part of what it means to be a man.
So let’s just start with whether or not you can tell someone “no”. To be able to stand up for yourself without being swamped by negative emotions and uncertainty about whether or not someone’s feelings are hurt. When we realize that we do not have to accept the roles society offers us, we free ourselves from the checklist of qualifying attitudes offered by spiritually unconscious people to be men. I’ve seen grown men who maintained their anger because they felt alone and nowhere near to being capable of delivering what they felt the world was asking of them. Whenever men in this condition tell another person “no” they are reminded of this fear and all the old nonsense comes right to the surface
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